“Having the Balls to go Bald”
hi, i’m jenny.
In May of 2002, my best friend, Ashley, was diagnosed with Leukemia. After her first few treatments of chemo, her hair fell out pretty quickly. When I was in 7th grade, in 2003, I really wanted to shave my head for her; to show my support and make her feel more comfortable when we were at school. At that time she wouldn’t let me because she was worried that I’d be made fun of; so I decided to wait.
From 2002 until 2009 Ashley went in and out of remission. In the summer of 2009 she decided that she had had enough of the treatment and that she was not living the quality of life that she wanted. Ashley, her mom and I took a trip to Sanibel, Florida as her last “wish”. While we were there, we went to get our nails done at a local salon. As we were getting our nails done I got the idea to bring up the idea of shaving my head again. Ashley agreed, she had a few stipulations though. Ashley wanted to be the one to shave it and she made me promise not to tell anyone at home so it could be a surprise.
At first I was a little nervous to shave my head, but I knew that I wanted to go through with it. Once all my hair was gone, it was such a great feeling. It sounds silly because it is “just hair”, but it is a really empowering feeling. Being totally bald really gave me so much confidence.
In August 2009, Ashley passed away. Even after she passed, I continued to shave my head until January of 2010. A lot of the reason for doing this was to hold onto a little part of Ashley.
It’s been about 9 months since I last shaved my head. I have been tempted many times to do it again, and I’ll probably do it again in the future. I would encourage everyone to do it at least once in his or her life.